I do hope you read this before you completely swallow butterflies for that guy, because once you get to that point, there’s no turning back. Before you say “I do” in your head to that cute crush, if you find these six things whenever you visit his home or apartment, they are red flags—not pink. And if you’re a guy reading this, no bad vibes. Just try as hard as you can to keep your house neat and sane.
1. A dirty house.
Imagine walking into your crush’s house to find everywhere covered in dust, plates piled in the sink, floors that look like they haven’t been mopped in the last month, and a huge dustbin pile. What’s even worse is that this cute man had two full days’ notice that you were coming over.
My girl, he’s recruiting for maids. And if you walk back into that apartment the second time, I promise you, you’ll get the job. In my opinion, there is no excuse for such behaviour. He either doesn’t value you enough or he has a real problem keeping things tidy. Whatever the case, you’re not some messiah who is going to solve his problem. You can offer him some external help, but you can’t change him. In essence, dust your slippers and go.
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2. Personal hygiene.
Heads up! Personal hygiene is different from the first point we established earlier. People can be neat yet carefree about their bodies and general well-being. Tell me why someone will be using the same toothbrush for over a year, even when it’s starting to look like a hay farm. Why’s the towel hanging like some faded and unwashed piece of rag? Why are the boxers ripped that much? Is it a mosquito net?
If you’re thinking that this is broke shaming, I beg to differ. There’s a fine line between broke shaming and calling out poor hygiene practices. This is a sign of poor hygiene, and it’s a red flag.
3. Traces of the Past.
I know some people are die-hard lovers. But tell me why this cute man still has pictures of his EX in his house. In a very visible location?
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Or some of her stuff, like makeup or shower products, jewellery, and all that. Even if they cohabited before, those things should be out of the house already. I don’t know if to call it plain disrespect or emphatically say that the guy is going through a lot mentally. But he needs to heal and not go into a fresh relationship with such baggage.
Nah, you gotta bounce, girl. That’s romantic warfare going on right there. And it’s going to burn you.
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4. Porn Magazines.
So you walk into the apartment, and while you’re looking around, you find some porn magazines? Our cute guy actually reads porn magazines? Hehehe. My dear, he’s most likely watching porn too. And it’ll take the hand of God to not jam sex-related issues in the long run of the relationship. Please, let that man go. There’s a Mia Khalifa match somewhere on the planet that is made for him. Not you. But if you happen to be a Mia Kalifa clone, no issues. You guys should do fast and get married.
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5. No cookware in the Kitchen when he’s 30+
Unless you’ve established the fact that he just moved in on his own and he’s slowly trying to set up his apartment, why is his kitchen empty? As in, no cookware, glassware, or other kitchen utensils. Just plastic cups, spoons, plates, and some styrofoam takeaway in the dustbin. And he’s over 30? Again, there has to be something fundamentally wrong, but you’re not a detective, and it’s not your job to do that research work. It’s a very red flag.
6. He’s Giving Vicenzo Vibes.
You’ll be surprised at the amount of people on earth who need prayers. You’ll enter some guy’s house and it’ll be giving the aura of a mafia or serial killer. No, they are not deep about action movies. They are not fascinated by weapons or knives. They can send you to the afterlife.
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If you ever have to find weird amounts of knives, daggers, and that sort of thing at a guy’s house. Please disappear. You may not make it out the next time. Please be polite so that the guy doesn’t suspect that you’re uncomfortable.
I know these are very weird scenarios but I promise you, these are people’s experiences. Have you encountered these red flags before? Have you had a different experience? What do you think I should have added to the list?
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