LIFESTYLE

5 Ways To Stop Insecure Attachment From Ruining Your Love Life

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6 years ago

January 24, 2019

Insecurity is an inner feeling of being threatened and/or inadequate in some way. However, Healthy attachment is known as secure attachment. When secure attachment doesn’t occur, then by default an insecure attachment takes place. It is helpful to understand why insecure attachment may have occurred, so you can understand how your adult relationships have potentially been affected by your first relationships in life

We are naturally wired biologically to desire attachment to others. When insecure attachment takes place during infancy and childhood, this can wreak havoc on adult relationships.

Here are 5 ways to stop insecure attachment;

Recognize the problematic behavior

You cannot fix something unless you recognize that it is broken. The first step to healing a relationship and resolving insecure attachment is identifying that there is a problem. The key is recognizing that there is something wrong in your intimate relationships which is revealed in a pattern of behavior that potentially stems from insecure attachment.

Trust in yourself.
Feeling secure in a relationship depends on trusting the other person but, more importantly, on learning to trust yourself. Trust yourself to know that no matter what the other person does, you will take care of yourself.

Practice self-awareness

It’s helpful to be aware of the fact that you might be more afraid of abandonment than others and that your fear is not always justified. When judging your partner’s behavior, stop and think before reacting. Consider whether or not there is evidence that your partner is actually behaving in a way that might indicate that he or she is going to abandon you, or whether you are jumping to conclusions.

Don’t forget about your friends

Try to invest in other relationships outside of your romantic relationship, as well. Meet up with friends and family members. This will give you a general sense of being supported by others. And, it will keep your romantic relationship from being your one and only focus.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help

If you notice that your anxieties are having a detrimental effect on your relationship, consider seeking professional help, either alone or with your partner.

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Our Parent’s Generation Didn’t Support Their Children’s Talents – Phyno

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November 18, 2024

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Nigerian rapper Phyno praised today’s parents for showing greater support for their children’s talents than the previous generation did.

During his interview on the In My Opinion Podcast, the renowned musician shared his personal experience. He revealed that his parents initially discouraged his musical ambitions.

Phyno explained that the current generation of parents is more understanding and open-minded about their children’s aspirations. This creates a more supportive environment for young talent to flourish.

“My parents didn’t support my career when I first started. It’s different now,” he said.

He added, “I think the generation after my parents understands what it means to support their children’s talent and knows that there is something special about a child who loves music, or a child who loves to play ball.”

The rapper compared the two generations. He emphasized how children in the past were often disciplined for pursuing their artistic dreams.

“Then, when parents come home and see you playing ball, they beat you and seize the ball and give you punishment. You understand me?” he said.

Phyno applauded today’s parents for identifying and fostering their children’s talents, be it in music, sports, or other fields.

“I’m just trying to say that era and this era are different. Now any father who sees his son can play ball and enrols him in an academy. Some, at 1 year old already buy you a ball and say you must play ball like Neymar,” he explained.

Phyno also acknowledged the shift in perception surrounding creative careers, saying,

“Different generations, you know and I also don’t blame my parents. I’m sure that the money in music now was never in music then. They also look at people who did music back then as useless people. As people who just wanted to carry dreadlocks and walk around. But now everyone sees the talent and a gift to be shared to the world, and shout-out to this era of parents.”

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ENTERTAINMENT

See Complete List Of Nominees At The FilmJoint Awards 2025

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14 hours ago

November 18, 2024

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The 2025 Filmjoint Awards are fast approaching, and the excitement is building as the full list of nominees is finally out. This year’s nominations highlight exceptional films that span various genres, styles, and talents.

Each nominated film brings something unique and captivating, showcasing an incredible range of cinematic creativity. As we count down to the 2025 Filmjoint Awards, these films are set to compete fiercely across multiple categories, aiming for top honours.

The diverse selection of nominees reflects the rich talent in the industry, making the 2025 Filmjoint Awards a must-watch event.

Let’s dive into the standout films leading the race and vying for this year’s prestigious awards.

BEST PICTURE

Bunuelesque
Jujuman
Conversations From The Past
The Birth
The Interrogation Of Lotanna
Ekún Ìyàwó: A Tale of a Runaway Bride
Love, Olaitan

BEST DIRECTOR

Better Place
Maki
The Major
The Birth
The Veil
Cry Me Awake
The Interrogation Of Lotanna
Ekún Ìyàwó: A Tale of a Runaway Bride
Love, Olaitan
Conversations From The Past

BEST INTERNATIONAL FILM

Bunueleque
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Ibrahim
Dojo
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BEST AFRICAN FILM

The Interrogation of Lotanna
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Mike and Mariam
Taama

BEST INDIGENOUS FILM (NIGERIA)

Man and Masquerades
Edeleyo – The Decision
Psyched
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Cry Me Awake
Love, Olaitan
The Interrogation Of Lotanna
Ume (Breathe)
Honeycomb
Ekún Ìyàwó: A Tale of a Runaway Bride

BEST CINEMATOGRAPHY

The Veil
The Major
The Birth
The Delectable Azeezah Sama
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Sweat and Blood
Ekún Ìyàwó: A Tale of a Runaway Bride
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Conversations From The Past
Bush Baby

BEST PRODUCTION DESIGN

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The Interrogation Of Lotanna
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Bush Baby
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BEST SOUND OVERALL

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Ekún Ìyàwó: A Tale of a Runaway Bride
Love, Olaitan
Conversations From The Past

BEST ACTOR IN A LEADING ROLE

The Interrogation Of Lotanna
Breakfast Over Dinner
Kaseko
Man and Masquerades
Road Trip
The Delectable Azeezah Sama
Turning Point
Tele Tele
The Last Word
Bush Baby

BEST ACTRESS IN A LEADING ROLE

The Birth
Cry Me Awake
Maki
The Delectable Azeezah Sama
Sealed
Anthology of Emotions
Ekún Ìyàwó: A Tale of a Runaway Bride
Ume (Breathe)
Psyched
Conversations From The Past
The Last Word

BEST SCREENPLAY (ORIGINAL OR ADAPTED)

The Birth
Better Place
Maki
Turning Point
Conversations From The Past
Bodmas
Love, Olaitan
Cry Me Awake
Honeycomb
Last Cab Home

BEST COSTUME DESIGN

Edeleyo – The Decision
The Major
Cry Me Awake
Ekún Ìyàwó: A Tale of a Runaway Bride
Conversations From The Past
Tele Tele
The Veil
Oke Okuta
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The Birth

BEST MAKE-UP/SFX

Bush Baby
The Major
Cry Me Awake
Ekún Ìyàwó: A Tale of a Runaway Bride
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BEST FILM EDITING

The Birth
Psyched
The Veil
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Jude
Bush Baby
The Albino Story
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The Delectable Azeezah Sama
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BEST DOCUMENTARY FILM

On Your Own
Sipping Words
Agbo: Poison or Remedy
The Way We Are
28 days
Ade: Depth of Devotion
Afrobunk

BEST STUDENT FILM

Rekiya
Flawed Cupid
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Ijo, A Dance
Abiku: Enigma
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Endless Loop

JURY AWARD FOR OUTSTANDING STORYTELLING

The Birth
Love, Olaitan
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FILMJOINT AWARD FOR VOICE OF IMPACT

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Bodmas
Sonu
Sealed
Listen
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FASHION

How The Speedy Bag Became A New Menswear Favourite

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1 day ago

November 17, 2024

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The Louis Vuitton Speedy bag, once a celebrity favourite in the early 2000s, is making a resurgence as the go-to accessory for the new style, and this time it is men who are adopting the iconic top-handle look.

Pharrell Williams, the musician and creative director for Louis Vuitton’s menswear, has revitalized the classic piece by introducing bold colours and playful designs.

The new Louis Vuitton Speedy bag also has found favour among other style-conscious men. This goes from actor Jacob Elordi, known for his love of statement bags, to NBA star LeBron James.

Unlike its previous run as a flashy, attention-grabbing accessory, today’s Speedy bag appears more nonchalant. It blends seamlessly with traditional menswear pieces such as Elordi’s tailored jeans and James’s bomber jacket.

The Speedy’s resurgence mirrors a larger trend, as purses and bags become essential accessories in men’s fashion. As more male celebrities adopt the Speedy, the bag is becoming a symbol of modern masculinity. It portrays a statement piece that says “I’m confident, I’m stylish, and I’m not afraid to carry my stuff.”

The rise of the Louis Vuitton Speedy bag in popularity among men can be attributed to several factors.

First, the bag’s versatility makes it a practical choice for a variety of occasions. Whether you’re heading to the office, running errands, or going out for a night on the town, the Speedy can be dressed up or down to suit your needs.

Second, the bag’s iconic status and association with luxury brands like Louis Vuitton make it a coveted accessory for those who want to project an image of wealth and sophistication.

Finally, the Speedy’s recent resurgence in popularity has been fueled by celebrity endorsements and social media influencers. Seeing celebrities and fashion icons carrying the Louis Vuitton Speedy bag has made it a must-have accessory for many men.

The Speedy’s resurgence also speaks to a broader shift in men’s fashion. In recent years, there has been a growing trend towards more expressive and individualistic styles of dressing.

Men are no longer afraid to experiment with different looks and to embrace accessories that reflect their personality. The Speedy is the perfect accessory for this new generation of stylish men. It is a versatile, iconic, and stylish bag that can be worn with a variety of different outfits.

In conclusion, the Louis Vuitton Speedy bag is a timeless classic that is experiencing a well-deserved resurgence in popularity.

Whether you’re a fan of the original design or the new, updated version, the Speedy is sure to be a stylish and practical addition to your wardrobe.

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