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Stella Damasus Shares Something She Believes Everyone Who Is Planning To Get Married Or Is Already Married Needs To Hear

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7 years ago

September 27, 2017

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One of the unanswered questions on the lips of many single women is why so many marriags are failing.

While we can’t point our fingers to one main reason because it is different from one marriage to the other, Stella Damasus is opening our eyes some factors that she believes may lead to an unhappy marriage. She says it is something everyone who is planning to get married or is already married needs to hear.

In a vlog she titled, “Why your relationships will fail,” Stella talks about the baggages we carry from one relationship to the other.

These baggages are negativities, bitterness, pain and other emotional issues that we left untreated or unfixed.

Until we do something about them, according to her, we may continue running into problems in our relationships and with our spouses thinking they are the problem.

“I’m sure you’ve heard your spouse tell you one time or the other, ‘you are changing’ or ‘you have changed’ or ‘this is not the way you used to treat me,’” she asks.

She said,

One of the major reason why a relationship will fail is that, as women, we have a lot of baggage. Things that we have carried for a long time. We are emotional beings and women know how to keep things-deep things, some things that we have left untreated.

Things that we have not spoken about them, we’ve not sorted tham out, we havent done much about them. There’s no cure, there’s no prayer for it, we havent asked God to remove those things from us.

So, what now happens is when we meet a man, we’re nice, friendly and sweet. We do everything in the books and by the books to get his attention and we put our best foot forward so that he falls in love but we still carry the baggage.

For instance, when you get married, your man sees the best side of you, but then, you’re packing your baggaages in your suitcase to move into your husband’s house.

In your suitcase, you’re packing your anger, your spirit of doubt, your jealousy, the pain that you havent resolved, your fight that you havent fixed. Things that are not resolved in your life. all your past relationship, the suspicion, the distrust, you pack it and take it into your new home or into your new relationships.

Lets say you pack all these negativities as clothes, everyday, when you wake up, you take a shower and you wear one of them because that is what you have packed.

For example, you wear pain, and throughout that day, there is pain and you probably don’t realise that all you are carrying in your suitcase are a lot of negativity and you wear this pain and it is reflected in everything you do and your partner is looking at you and wondering, “why have you changed? What’s going on?”

And you think its all in his head and you’re asking why he’s blaming you for it and then the fight will start. You don’t realise that you carried that pain from your previous life into that relationship.

The next day, you wear a garment of unforgiveness and when he does something small, you snap, you don’t forgive him and your husband is wondering, ‘this is not the person I married.’

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Falz Speaks About His Worst Date Experience

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1 day ago

November 22, 2024

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Nigerian rapper Falz recently shared a humorous yet awkward story from one of his early dating experiences. During an interview on the Cocktails and Takeaways podcast with British media personality Madame Joyce, Falz recounted a surprising request from his date.

She asked him to order takeout for her family members back home. He explained the situation with his signature humour, highlighting how unexpected and awkward the moment was.

He explained,

“I haven’t had too many date experiences but the worst probably was this girl asking to buy stuff for her family at home, so I wasn’t sure how to feel. This was in Nigeria and I didn’t know whether to feel bad or not. She wanted me to buy takeaway for them, like to buy for each person… So different portions for the members of the family, takeaway for them. I didn’t even know whether to feel bad, because it was like, I came here on a date with you, not the whole family.”

Falz acknowledged that the request felt unusual but considered the possibility that her family genuinely needed the food. “I then sat and thought, What if they’re hungry? We were at a proper restaurant.”

“I feel like there are things that, when it comes to dates, there are things that the person would say directly or indirectly that would make you know whether you want to continue talking to them or not,” he added.

The rapper dismissed the idea that men immediately know if a woman is marriage material on the first date. He elaborated, suggesting that relationships often require time and experience to fully understand a partner’s potential.

He said, “To this day, there is nobody I can say that this is someone I want to marry. I haven’t gotten to that stage yet so I think it’d take a while.”

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Denzel Washington Opens Up About 15-Year Battle With Alcohol

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2 days ago

November 21, 2024

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Hollywood icon Denzel Washington recently disclosed his past struggles with alcohol during an interview with Esquire.

The two-time Academy Award winner candidly shared a fifteen-year pattern of wine consumption. What began as a casual habit gradually escalated into a regular occurrence.

He began, “Wine is very tricky. It’s very slow. It ain’t like, boom, all of a sudden,” he elaborated, recalling how a wine cellar he constructed in 1999 within his home became a place for self-indulgence.

The actor added,

“And part of it was we built this big house in 1999 with a ten-thousand-bottle wine cellar, and I learned to drink the best. So I’m gonna drink my ’61s and my ’82s and whatever we had. Wine was my thing, and now I was popping $4,000 bottles just because that’s what was left. And then later in those years I’d call Gil Turner’s Fine Wines & Spirits on Sunset Boulevard and say, Send me two bottles, the best of this or that.”

Washington also delved into his past, acknowledging his youthful experimentation with drugs. However, he emphasized that he never developed an addiction to substances such as heroin or cocaine.

He continued,

“I’m sure at first it was easy because I was younger. Two months off and let’s go. But drinking was a fifteen-year pattern. And truth be told, it didn’t start in ’99. It started earlier.”

A decade ago, as Washington neared his 60th birthday, a turning point arrived. He made the resolute decision to abstain from alcohol completely.

“I’ve done a lot of damage to the body. We’ll see. I’ve been clean. Be ten years this December. I stopped at sixty and I haven’t had a thimble’s worth since. Things are opening up for me now—like being seventy. It’s real. And it’s okay. This is the last chapter—if I get another thirty, what do I want to do? My mother made it to ninety-seven,” said Washington.

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It Hurts – Don Jazzy On Not Having A Partner

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4 days ago

November 19, 2024

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Renowned music executive and record label boss, Michael Collins Ajereh, better known as Don Jazzy, recently expressed disappointment over his current relationship status.

On Monday, he took to Instagram to share his desire to participate in the popular “suspect challenge.” This social media trend involves couples playfully teasing each other. However, the 41-year-old entrepreneur lamented that he couldn’t join in the fun due to his single status.

“Suspect wants to do suspect challenge but no suspect partner,” he wrote. In the accompanying caption, the music executive lamented that “it hurts.”

This isn’t the first time Don Jazzy has publicly discussed his relationship status. In 2021, he revealed that he married Michelle Jackson, a UK-based writer and model, at the age of 20. Unfortunately, their marriage ended in divorce after two years.

“I fucked it up cos I was giving all my time to my music. Music became a priority instead of my family. We got divorced when I was 22 and it hurt,” he said.

Earlier this year, Don Jazzy explained that he has not remarried as he is currently focused on personal growth and self-development.

“I dey work on myself so that when my head correct, my babe go enjoy me,” he wrote in pidgin English.

A few months ago, Don Jazzy made headlines when a foreign investor acquired his record label, Mavin Records.

In 2004, Don Jazzy and his former partner, D’banj, co-founded Mo’ Hits Records. Following its closure, Don Jazzy established Mavin Records in 2012.

Mavin Records has produced and nurtured a roster of talented artists. They include Tiwa Savage, Reekado Banks, Korede Bello, Dr SID, D’Prince, DNA Twins, Ayra Starr, Johnny Drille, Crayon, Boy Spice, Bayanni, Rema, Lifesize Teddy, and Ladipoe.

To commemorate his 37th birthday in 2019, Don Jazzy unveiled the Mavin Creative Studios. The studio is a multimillion-naira mansion serving as the label’s corporate headquarters.

Mavin Records has received numerous accolades, including two consecutive MTV Africa Music Awards for Best Record Label in 2013 and 2014.

The label’s artists have also collaborated with international music stars such as Beyoncé, Selena Gomez, Kelly Rowland, and Chris Brown.