There are a lot of factors that differentiate healthy relationships from toxic ones. From how you treat each other to how often you spend time together, these little things come together and reflect just how good your relationship is.
How you deal with conflicts is also one of the indications of the strength of any couple. How do healthy couples argue? Here are 3 things they do that you should copy for a happy relationship:
They’re respectful, even in anger
A couple’s quarrel isn’t an opportunity for both partners to hurl every insult under the sun at each other. You can disagree without resorting to degrading and offensive words. When you can argue with your partner without insulting them, then you’re keeping that line of communication open. But once you become rude and cruel, your partner either shuts down or responds in kind which isn’t constructive.
They stick with the issue at hand
If you feel like you’re not over something your partner did in the past, then have a different conversation about that. If you have the habit of bringing up past sins during fights then you should know that that is very bad for the relationship especially if those issues were already resolved. It may be tempting to use what your partner did a long time ago as a weapon to prove your point, but that is neither smart nor effective. Stick with the issue at hand.
They make up
No real argument should end without going through that process of making up. Yelling at each other and then waking up the next day, pretending as if nothing happened, is unhealthy. A few more unfinished fights like that and your relationship will crash and burn sooner than later. Make sure that, at the end of each argument, you both feel heard and understood. You may end it with a compromise, an apology, an agreement, etc. But the point is that you have a calm conversation where both partners feel better about things.
