LIFESTYLE

5 Things Couples Should Do When They Have An Argument

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3 years ago

June 23, 2021

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Many factors differentiate healthy relationships from toxic ones. How you treat each other, how often you spend time together, these little things come together and reflect just how good your relationship is.

How you deal with conflicts is also one of the indications of the strength of any couple.

Here are five things couples should do when they have an argument.

Be respectful, even in anger

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A couple’s quarrel isn’t an opportunity for both partners to hurl every insult under the sun at each other. You can disagree without resorting to degrading and offensive words. When you can argue with your partner without insulting them, then you’re keeping that line of communication open.

Stick with the issue at hand

Do you have the habit of bringing up past sins during fights? This is very bad for the relationship especially if those issues were already resolved. It may be tempting to use what your partner did a long time ago as a weapon to prove your point, but that is neither smart nor effective. Stick with the issue at hand.

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Be clear about what’s bothering you

Many people become passive-aggressive instead of addressing what really bothers them. It could be because they don’t know how to express themselves or they are worried about being too vulnerable. When you aren’t clear about what upsetting you and why, you don’t give your partner a clear idea of how to respond.

Listen

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Many couples form a habit of yelling over each other during arguments without actually listening to what the other is saying. You’re both trying so hard to share what’s on your mind, which is great. But it’s completely useless if you are doing it at the same time. At some point, you have to take turns. He talks, then you talk, back and forth like that until each person not only expresses themselves but also understands their partner’s position.

Make up

No real argument should end without going through that process of making up. Yelling at each other and then waking up the next day, pretending as if nothing happened, is unhealthy. A few more unfinished fights like that and your relationship will crash and burn sooner than later. Make sure that, at the end of each argument, you both feel heard and understood.

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Denzel Washington Opens Up About 15-Year Battle With Alcohol

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Hollywood icon Denzel Washington recently disclosed his past struggles with alcohol during an interview with Esquire.

The two-time Academy Award winner candidly shared a fifteen-year pattern of wine consumption. What began as a casual habit gradually escalated into a regular occurrence.

He began, “Wine is very tricky. It’s very slow. It ain’t like, boom, all of a sudden,” he elaborated, recalling how a wine cellar he constructed in 1999 within his home became a place for self-indulgence.

The actor added,

“And part of it was we built this big house in 1999 with a ten-thousand-bottle wine cellar, and I learned to drink the best. So I’m gonna drink my ’61s and my ’82s and whatever we had. Wine was my thing, and now I was popping $4,000 bottles just because that’s what was left. And then later in those years I’d call Gil Turner’s Fine Wines & Spirits on Sunset Boulevard and say, Send me two bottles, the best of this or that.”

Washington also delved into his past, acknowledging his youthful experimentation with drugs. However, he emphasized that he never developed an addiction to substances such as heroin or cocaine.

He continued,

“I’m sure at first it was easy because I was younger. Two months off and let’s go. But drinking was a fifteen-year pattern. And truth be told, it didn’t start in ’99. It started earlier.”

A decade ago, as Washington neared his 60th birthday, a turning point arrived. He made the resolute decision to abstain from alcohol completely.

“I’ve done a lot of damage to the body. We’ll see. I’ve been clean. Be ten years this December. I stopped at sixty and I haven’t had a thimble’s worth since. Things are opening up for me now—like being seventy. It’s real. And it’s okay. This is the last chapter—if I get another thirty, what do I want to do? My mother made it to ninety-seven,” said Washington.

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Skepta Graced Africa International Film Festival (AFRIFF) In Elegant Trad

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November 21, 2024

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Skepta made a grand entrance at Africa’s biggest film celebration, the Africa International Film Festival (AFRIFF). Through his attire, he showcased his deep connection to Nigerian culture.

The globally acclaimed artist donned an exquisite navy blue Agbada, tailored to perfection and adorned with striking royal blue and white embroidery highlighting the richness of his Yoruba heritage.

His choice of an Eastern native red cap added a distinctive flair, symbolizing his embrace of the Igbo culture. At the same time, adding a white necklace further enhanced the authenticity of his traditional look.

Skepta’s outfit was a testament to his impeccable sense of style and a deliberate nod to his dual cultural roots, blending elements of Western and Eastern Nigerian traditions.

The embroidery on the Agbada sparkled under the lights, drawing admiration from onlookers who marvelled at how seamlessly he combined cultural symbolism with modern elegance.

The bright red cap perched confidently on his head served as a bold statement of pride in his heritage, while the white necklace provided a subtle yet impactful finishing touch.

Nigerian paparazzi videographer Tosin Adeaga, popularly known as Coccolait, captured these unforgettable moments with his lens.

The up-close visuals reveal the intricate details of Skepta’s ensemble. Indeed, it emphasizes the craftsmanship and thoughtfulness that went into every element.

Coccolait’s expert videography showcases the textures, colours, and movements of Skepta’s attire as he mingled with attendees, further immortalizing this iconic cultural expression.

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With his appearance, Skepta not only celebrated the artistry of Nigerian fashion but also sent a powerful message about the importance of honouring one’s roots in creative and meaningful ways.

The moment was a true highlight of AFRIFF, blending tradition with the contemporary flair of a global icon.

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It Hurts – Don Jazzy On Not Having A Partner

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Renowned music executive and record label boss, Michael Collins Ajereh, better known as Don Jazzy, recently expressed disappointment over his current relationship status.

On Monday, he took to Instagram to share his desire to participate in the popular “suspect challenge.” This social media trend involves couples playfully teasing each other. However, the 41-year-old entrepreneur lamented that he couldn’t join in the fun due to his single status.

“Suspect wants to do suspect challenge but no suspect partner,” he wrote. In the accompanying caption, the music executive lamented that “it hurts.”

This isn’t the first time Don Jazzy has publicly discussed his relationship status. In 2021, he revealed that he married Michelle Jackson, a UK-based writer and model, at the age of 20. Unfortunately, their marriage ended in divorce after two years.

“I fucked it up cos I was giving all my time to my music. Music became a priority instead of my family. We got divorced when I was 22 and it hurt,” he said.

Earlier this year, Don Jazzy explained that he has not remarried as he is currently focused on personal growth and self-development.

“I dey work on myself so that when my head correct, my babe go enjoy me,” he wrote in pidgin English.

A few months ago, Don Jazzy made headlines when a foreign investor acquired his record label, Mavin Records.

In 2004, Don Jazzy and his former partner, D’banj, co-founded Mo’ Hits Records. Following its closure, Don Jazzy established Mavin Records in 2012.

Mavin Records has produced and nurtured a roster of talented artists. They include Tiwa Savage, Reekado Banks, Korede Bello, Dr SID, D’Prince, DNA Twins, Ayra Starr, Johnny Drille, Crayon, Boy Spice, Bayanni, Rema, Lifesize Teddy, and Ladipoe.

To commemorate his 37th birthday in 2019, Don Jazzy unveiled the Mavin Creative Studios. The studio is a multimillion-naira mansion serving as the label’s corporate headquarters.

Mavin Records has received numerous accolades, including two consecutive MTV Africa Music Awards for Best Record Label in 2013 and 2014.

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