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7 Things Men Want In A Relationship

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Expressing their needs within an intimate relationship is often a challenge for men.

Whether influenced by societal norms or struggling to articulate their needs, men, typically the less vocal participants in such relationships, often endure silently when their emotional needs are unmet by their partners.

Regardless of your gender, reading this article will provide deeper insights into yourself or your partner, illuminating the needs within your intimate relationship.

Let’s put an end to unnecessary conflicts arising from miscommunication, nights lacking intimacy, and emotional shutdowns.

By delving into the following tips, we guarantee that your perspective on your relationship will undergo a transformative shift.

Here are 7 things that men seek in a relationship:

1. Praise And Approval

Men are often known for having delicate egos. Regular reassurance about various aspects, such as ourselves, our career paths, our effectiveness as partners, our sexual abilities, and our appeal, is something we appreciate.

While it’s true that men may require less frequent verbal praise compared to their female counterparts, expressing admiration doesn’t have to be a calculated exchange. Why not just embrace more positivity?

So, ladies, let your admiration flow freely. Communicate to your man what you find appealing about him. Share your favourite physical features of his.

Tell him when you find it attractive how he expresses himself, achieves something, or takes you on a date. Your praise won’t inflate his ego; instead, it will foster a sense of being loved.

And here’s a bonus: the more you acknowledge his positives, the more you’ll notice and appreciate them.

 2. Respect

Respect is akin to love for men. If a man senses disapproval, whether it’s directed at him, his career, or the values he holds dear, it becomes challenging for him to trust and feel loved.

The underlying thought is, “If she doesn’t respect my core identity, how can she genuinely desire what’s best for me?”

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Respecting your man goes beyond conventional gestures. Actions like reheating dinner or handling dry cleaning might be considerate but don’t necessarily translate to respect – they’re nice, but respect is more like oxygen to men.

Why aren’t such actions seen as signs of respect and appreciation? If, while doing something nice, you conveyed doubt or contradicted him, you were essentially questioning his competence.

To truly show your man respect, demonstrate your confidence in his abilities.

If a man’s partner fails to respect his life path or mission, he’ll likely feel compelled to distance himself, fostering an anxious disconnect.

3. A Sense Of Sexual Connection

Men and women connect through both sex and communication, but generally, women connect better through talking, while men connect better through sex.

This doesn’t mean men need sex every day to feel connected. Often, men connect through signs of sexuality as much as through the act itself.

For men, initiating sex is a way to ensure their partner is still sexually available. So, if your man reaches out for you, simply showing willingness to embrace, kiss, and engage can make him feel loved.

The challenge arises when there’s a lack of awareness. The woman may not feel like opening up sexually until she feels connected emotionally, but the man might find it hard to communicate because they haven’t been physical.

Avoid these unintentional standoffs by talking with your partner about what specifically makes them feel most loved.

4. Emotional Intimacy

From a young age, men are ingrained with the idea of avoiding any display of weakness. This includes refraining from complaints, sharing fears or concerns, and expressing self-doubt or worry.

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A man’s partner should ideally serve as a haven. It’s the space where he can reveal vulnerabilities and allow his partner to contribute to his healing. Just as women may take time to open up sexually in a relationship, men gradually unfold emotionally.

The first time a man sheds tears in front of his partner, it’s crucial that the response is nurturing and supportive. If he perceives a negative reaction or a lack of understanding, he might withdraw and no longer trust his partner with his emotions, creating a distance in the relationship.

In this scenario, both partners suffer — he internalizes his struggles, feeling flawed and imperfect, while she is kept emotionally at a distance.

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5. Space

In many relationships, the feminine-associated female partner desires more time together, while the masculine-associated male partner seeks more time apart. Achieving a perfect balance is challenging; it requires managing the dynamics of closeness and separateness.

It’s crucial not to suffocate a man by denying him free time or displaying overly jealous behaviour – this can quickly lead to the demise of a relationship. Men require breathing room; they value time for hobbies, with friends, and to work on personal projects for fulfilment.

Traditionally, when women faced problems, they sought support within the tribe – connecting with friends and family. In contrast, when men encounter challenges, they often prefer solitude to contemplate solutions.

So, give him space. Allow him time to breathe. Let him pursue his interests. A man returns happier when he feels trusted and knows you respect the strength of your bond enough to grant him the freedom he needs.

6. Physical Touch

Men require regular non-sexual touch along with a sense of sexual connection.

For example, if a man is engrossed in a task and his partner lovingly touches his neck and hair from behind, he can feel just as loved as if they had engaged in sexual intimacy, perhaps even more, depending on his mood.

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This type of touch is seen as a form of physical love, conveying the message, “I love you, and I want you to feel happy always. Know that I’m here for you, and I care for you deeply”.

7. Security

Both men and women are drawn to certainty in a relationship. When a man senses that his partner is committed for the long term, he becomes more willing to open up, provided he shares the same level of commitment.

However, the sense of security extends beyond just staying together. It involves feeling assured that his partner approves of him and supports his career choices. Non-sexual touches throughout the day contribute to his feelings of security and love.

Allowing him to have his time with his friends without constant check-ins also fosters a sense of security. Ultimately, a partner who takes intentional steps to love him in the way he needs reinforces his overall sense of security in the relationship.

How To Give Him What He Needs

Where do you stand in your relationship?

If you’re a man reading this, do you feel that all your needs are being met? Is there something you could communicate to your partner for a potential improvement? (Consider sharing this article with her.) For those in a relationship with a man, how can you enhance your expressions of love? Which aspects mentioned here can you incorporate more into your relationship?

For more insights on building emotionally mature and fulfilling relationships, explore additional articles on Fab.ng. We cover various topics such as sex, love, relationship tips, and more. Dive into our relationships category for articles that contribute to a more satisfying love life.

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Something About Nigeria Drains Your Excellence – Adekunle Gold

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Nigerian singer Adekunle Gold ignited widespread discussions online after openly expressing his frustrations with life in Nigeria.

On December 17, 2024, he took to X to share his thoughts, urging Nigerians to safeguard their passions. He emphasised that the challenges of living in Nigeria often leave people feeling emotionally and mentally drained.

He wrote,

There’s just something about this place that drains your excellence. Striving for it here feels futile, as the environment pulls you down until you become just like everyone else. Whatever you do, guard your passion fiercely, be firm and never settle for less.”

The post resonated deeply with many Nigerians, prompting them to flood Adekunle Gold’s comment section with their opinions.

They shared personal stories and experiences, highlighting the challenges of living and pursuing success in Nigeria.

Read some of the comments below:

“Nigeria on a daily basis”

“They’ll tell you , speak positive things about Nigeria What is positive that I can’t enjoy as a citizen too? Is this the way we get treated outside? The place we call home isn’t feeling like home at all? Nothing works.”

“Well it’s the place we tap initial energy and renew strength. Diamond doesn’t do get excited in the fire. But it’s at best and it’s excellent on a pretty lady’s ring finger. That’s how I like to see this place. It’s not the best place to be but we’re usually better for it.”

“If AG with all his influence and connections dey feel am, no hope for you wey be regular man on the streets. You go kpai”

“If you way don attain some stage day complain,Wetin make we way never even know Wetin we wan do for our life day say. Just doing THIS and THAT,hopping from THIS to THAT, talent too choke confuse on what to base on while trying to ride safe. Omoooo”

“Naija tough gan and draining. Good things are happening for those who can’t but to join them.”

“AG, you gat the money, every available resources to leave the country. This country no be life we dey live inside so. Even rich people dey complain.. wetin person like me wan come talk? Naija failed US”

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Toyosi Etim-Effiong Says She Doesn’t Trust Her Husband 100%

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Toyosi Etim-Effiong, the wife of Nigerian actor Daniel Etim-Effiong, recently stirred reactions by admitting that she does not completely trust her husband, even after seven years of marriage.

During the latest episode of her podcast, The Toyosi Podcast, where Daniel was invited as a guest, he directly asked her, “Do you trust me 100 percent after seven years of marriage?”

After carefully considering the question, Toyosi responded with a firm “No.” She emphasised that, although she trusts Daniel to remain committed to his vows, she also acknowledges that life is full of uncertainties and unpredictable circumstances.

Toyosi Etim-Effiong explained,

“Do I trust you a hundred percent? No, but I trust that you will always keep me in the loop. Maybe not ‘keep me in the loop. I’ve spent these years with you, I know you to a large extent and I’m getting to know you better. I think that you will do your absolute best to honour your vows and honour what we have. But I’m also aware that, I don’t want to say anything can happen, but things happen more or less. And I feel like if anything ever happens, I would know.”

The clip from the episode quickly went viral, sparking diverse reactions from social media users. Some viewers agreed, saying they understood Toyosi’s perspective, while others criticised the couple for sharing such a private moment online.

An Instagram user voiced her understanding, saying, “Her response in the interview is deep. Her emotions, facial expressions, and thoughtful pauses, coupled with her careful choice of words, speak volumes. I sincerely wish them all the best.”

“You can never trust someone 💯, you can lie to yourself that you do but it’s not possible, if 💯 trust is attainable, there won’t be jealousy, there won’t be fear of losing that person… as long as you married someone with value, someone you know that other people would do anything to have because they are good both financially and character wise, you will always have that fear of losing them and that fear is as a result of lacking trust and it’s normal… you just have to control your fear and trust them at least 75% for the sake of your inner peace,” said another person.

Another person voiced their disapproval of the content: “There’s no reason why this should be content. I’m very much against this sort of marital content. You’ll harm yourselves but to each their own.” 

“U want to make content and hustle with sensitive private content creation that could spin off and probably mess you up if care is not taken..a good discussion but strictly away from public eye….lets be calming down,” another person warned.

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How To Avoid Billing This December

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As a Nigerian adult, you understand that December isn’t merely a festive season—it’s the ultimate billing battlefield. In this case, knowing how to avoid billing this December can be your financial lifeline.

The month transforms into an elaborate financial obstacle course where every social engagement becomes a potential wallet-draining experience.

Picture this: you’re suddenly expected to match expensive aso-ebi for your partner’s distant cousin’s wedding, shell out cash for elaborate office hangout festivities, purchase thoughtful gifts for an extensive network of friends and family, grab concert tickets for the hottest “detty December” events, and somehow maintain some semblance of financial sanity.

Each commitment is strategically designed to empty your bank account, with Sapa waiting eagerly in the wings to completely demolish your January savings.

The universe seems to have conspired with social expectations to orchestrate a complex financial challenge, transforming December into an unofficial billing Olympics where your wallet is the primary competitor.

But here’s the good news: you can become a strategic “shege survivor” by mastering how to avoid billing this December with calculated precision and smart financial manoeuvres.

In this comprehensive survival guide, we’ll explore tactical approaches to navigate the treacherous December spending landscape, ensuring you emerge victorious without sacrificing your financial stability or social reputation. Prepare to become the ultimate December financial ninja!

1. Always Complain Like It’s Your Birthright

Nobody wants to bill someone who complains every five minutes. If you consistently make a point of complaining about your financial situation whenever you get the chance, the likelihood of being asked for money will drop drastically.

The only exception is if you have people around you who are heartless and completely audacious—if that’s the case, there’s a solution in step two.

2. Trade Your Flashy Phone for a ‘Torchlight’

Do you see that iPhone 14 Pro Max of yours? That big phone that attracts unnecessary attention? It’s essentially a billboard screaming, “I’m open for billing!”

To avoid billing, sell it and invest the money in preparing for next year’s challenges. No one will suspect you of being a “billionaire in transit” if you’re using a humble Nokia torchlight or an old-school TECNO phone.

Picture this: someone asking you for money while you’re holding a phone that looks like it belongs in 2003. They might even feel sorry for you and give you some spare change.

The goal here is to avoid billing by making it clear you’re not the person with deep pockets.

3. Buy Okrika Clothes

As the saying goes at the “Okrika” stores, “na mumu dey go boutique.” Avoid billing by steering clear of designer clothes that scream wealth and immediately mark you as a target for requests.

Instead, buy “Okrika” (secondhand) clothes and proudly share how much you paid when people compliment you. Tell them, “You won’t believe how much this outfit cost; it was just 500 Naira!” and make sure to add, “I’m making do with the little I have…”

This strategy helps position you as the king or queen of thrift, ensuring that nobody dares to ask you for money or extravagant contributions.

4. Avoid Calls Like a Pro

Screen all your calls, and be strategic about who you answer. The call from your cousin in the village? We both know it’s not “Merry Christmas” they’re about to say—it’s more likely “I need money for the New Year.”

To avoid billing, activate your Do Not Disturb (DND) mode and only return calls from people who won’t ask for a handout.

If you must respond, use WhatsApp messages so you can carefully craft your excuses without feeling pressured.

5. Go Solo: Break Up With Your Partner

Let’s be real—being in a relationship is one of the major sources of billing in December. To avoid billing and enjoy some peace of mind, consider going solo this season.

Enjoy your money without worrying about shared expenses, and enter the New Year without emotional or financial baggage. You deserve it!

When you want to avoid billing in December, it isn’t just about saving money—it’s about preserving your sanity and entering January without the financial hangover.

These strategies will help you avoid billing and ensure a peaceful, financially secure holiday season. When you’re sipping zobo in the comfort of your home instead of crying over debt recovery meetings, remember to thank me.

If you found these tips helpful and want more, visit here. And remember not to fall in love this December!

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