When it comes to dating a coworker, the number one rule that readily comes to the mind is ‘don’t do it‘, but sometimes, it is easier said than done especially if your job requires you to spend long hours and tight cubicles with the same person.
Ask your friends and siblings for an advice on dating a coworker, majority of the responses will simply be “Don’t.” Sometimes, it feels like everyone has a cautionary tale of workplace relationship that went terribly wrong.
Tempting as it may be, dating a coworker or boss can turn out to be super awkward and traumatic. Sometimes it may lead to a tarnished professional reputation, and even job-loss.
However, some people don’t see anything wrong with dating a co-worker. While some people is it as a no go area, some others see it as a walk in the park.
If you’re considering dating someone you work with, then you should read these tips first because if at all you have to do it, then do it right.
Review Your Company’s Policy
If it is strictly against the rules in the organisation, then don’t go for it. There are lots of options out there, and a coworker might be appealing because it seems convenient. If you try to explore other options, but you and your coworker can’t stop thinking about each other, then speak to your human resource executive to see if there might be a clause for exceptions. While some companies frown at workplace relationships, some welcome the idea with open hands.
Avoid Office Public Display Of Affection (PDA)
Even if your company policy doesn’t explicitly state anything against engaging in romantic relationships at the office, don’t give your HR executive a reason to keep their eyes on you. No one needs to see your public display of affection.
Maintain Independent Friendships And Hobbies
Dating your co-worker and then seeing him after work may be too close for comfort. Try doing your own thing, be independent. Learn a new skill, hangout with your girls, do just anything to maintain your own identity. It’ll keep you sane and even better.
The heart grows fonder with a little distance even if it’s just for a few hours. Plus, you’ll have more to talk about over dinner if you actually did things separately that day.
Have A Break Up Possibility Plan
The number one reason why people seem to have a problem with dating a co-worker is the inevitable awkwardness of going to work after breakup. Basically it becomes difficult to focus on your job when the object of your affection works in your office. It may sound weird but sometimes, it may be super helpful to discuss what you will do if or when things don’t work out.
Make Sure It’s Worth It
It sounds simple enough, it’s important to keep in mind that the person you know at the office is likely different from the person he becomes when he’s not in a professional setting. Ensure he is worth it and that it could become something real.