LIFESTYLE

4 Ways To Tackle Your Fear Of Abandonment

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6 years ago

March 26, 2019

Many people have fear of abandonment issues because they were abandoned earlier in life. It could have been a previous relationship, but likely the source is from childhood. The key is recognizing that the fear of abandonment exists.

See 4 ways to tackle your fear of abandonment;

Become emotionally self reliant

Your identity should never be solely tied to a relationship. It is part of who you are but it is does not define you. Make sure you can embrace these thoughts and know that you can be okay if you were to become single or alone. You do not base your worthiness on being in the relationship. Instead you are worthy because you are YOU and nobody else can be a better you.

Write about your abandonment

Writing about your abandonment is one way of uncovering all your feelings, emotions, and thoughts on this issue. If you are able to get them out on paper, you are helping your mind process through these fears and emotions. If you get emotionally stuck in this process or find that it is not helping enough, then find a therapist who can help you. One way or another you need to uncover and process these emotions in order to understand the root of your fear.

Own your feelings

Part of working on your mental well-being and all the things that are tied into it (self-confidence, intimacy issues, and anxiety) is owning how you feel.

It can be so easy to hide in the comfort of denial and not really accept that anything feels scary or worrying. While this feels nice in the short-term, it doesn’t do us any favors in terms of moving forward with our lives. Instead of jumping to cover up or hide your feelings, try to work on acknowledging them.

Let someone in

Big changes start with small steps. Teach yourself to trust again. Confiding in people doesn’t always mean sharing your deepest, darkest secrets; start by telling friends little details about your life that they don’t already know. By sharing information, you’ll strengthen your friendships and realize that people are interested and invested in your life.

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Denzel Washington Opens Up About 15-Year Battle With Alcohol

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Hollywood icon Denzel Washington recently disclosed his past struggles with alcohol during an interview with Esquire.

The two-time Academy Award winner candidly shared a fifteen-year pattern of wine consumption. What began as a casual habit gradually escalated into a regular occurrence.

He began, “Wine is very tricky. It’s very slow. It ain’t like, boom, all of a sudden,” he elaborated, recalling how a wine cellar he constructed in 1999 within his home became a place for self-indulgence.

The actor added,

“And part of it was we built this big house in 1999 with a ten-thousand-bottle wine cellar, and I learned to drink the best. So I’m gonna drink my ’61s and my ’82s and whatever we had. Wine was my thing, and now I was popping $4,000 bottles just because that’s what was left. And then later in those years I’d call Gil Turner’s Fine Wines & Spirits on Sunset Boulevard and say, Send me two bottles, the best of this or that.”

Washington also delved into his past, acknowledging his youthful experimentation with drugs. However, he emphasized that he never developed an addiction to substances such as heroin or cocaine.

He continued,

“I’m sure at first it was easy because I was younger. Two months off and let’s go. But drinking was a fifteen-year pattern. And truth be told, it didn’t start in ’99. It started earlier.”

A decade ago, as Washington neared his 60th birthday, a turning point arrived. He made the resolute decision to abstain from alcohol completely.

“I’ve done a lot of damage to the body. We’ll see. I’ve been clean. Be ten years this December. I stopped at sixty and I haven’t had a thimble’s worth since. Things are opening up for me now—like being seventy. It’s real. And it’s okay. This is the last chapter—if I get another thirty, what do I want to do? My mother made it to ninety-seven,” said Washington.

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Skepta Graced Africa International Film Festival (AFRIFF) In Elegant Trad

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November 21, 2024

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Skepta made a grand entrance at Africa’s biggest film celebration, the Africa International Film Festival (AFRIFF). Through his attire, he showcased his deep connection to Nigerian culture.

The globally acclaimed artist donned an exquisite navy blue Agbada, tailored to perfection and adorned with striking royal blue and white embroidery highlighting the richness of his Yoruba heritage.

His choice of an Eastern native red cap added a distinctive flair, symbolizing his embrace of the Igbo culture. At the same time, adding a white necklace further enhanced the authenticity of his traditional look.

Skepta’s outfit was a testament to his impeccable sense of style and a deliberate nod to his dual cultural roots, blending elements of Western and Eastern Nigerian traditions.

The embroidery on the Agbada sparkled under the lights, drawing admiration from onlookers who marvelled at how seamlessly he combined cultural symbolism with modern elegance.

The bright red cap perched confidently on his head served as a bold statement of pride in his heritage, while the white necklace provided a subtle yet impactful finishing touch.

Nigerian paparazzi videographer Tosin Adeaga, popularly known as Coccolait, captured these unforgettable moments with his lens.

The up-close visuals reveal the intricate details of Skepta’s ensemble. Indeed, it emphasizes the craftsmanship and thoughtfulness that went into every element.

Coccolait’s expert videography showcases the textures, colours, and movements of Skepta’s attire as he mingled with attendees, further immortalizing this iconic cultural expression.

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With his appearance, Skepta not only celebrated the artistry of Nigerian fashion but also sent a powerful message about the importance of honouring one’s roots in creative and meaningful ways.

The moment was a true highlight of AFRIFF, blending tradition with the contemporary flair of a global icon.

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It Hurts – Don Jazzy On Not Having A Partner

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Renowned music executive and record label boss, Michael Collins Ajereh, better known as Don Jazzy, recently expressed disappointment over his current relationship status.

On Monday, he took to Instagram to share his desire to participate in the popular “suspect challenge.” This social media trend involves couples playfully teasing each other. However, the 41-year-old entrepreneur lamented that he couldn’t join in the fun due to his single status.

“Suspect wants to do suspect challenge but no suspect partner,” he wrote. In the accompanying caption, the music executive lamented that “it hurts.”

This isn’t the first time Don Jazzy has publicly discussed his relationship status. In 2021, he revealed that he married Michelle Jackson, a UK-based writer and model, at the age of 20. Unfortunately, their marriage ended in divorce after two years.

“I fucked it up cos I was giving all my time to my music. Music became a priority instead of my family. We got divorced when I was 22 and it hurt,” he said.

Earlier this year, Don Jazzy explained that he has not remarried as he is currently focused on personal growth and self-development.

“I dey work on myself so that when my head correct, my babe go enjoy me,” he wrote in pidgin English.

A few months ago, Don Jazzy made headlines when a foreign investor acquired his record label, Mavin Records.

In 2004, Don Jazzy and his former partner, D’banj, co-founded Mo’ Hits Records. Following its closure, Don Jazzy established Mavin Records in 2012.

Mavin Records has produced and nurtured a roster of talented artists. They include Tiwa Savage, Reekado Banks, Korede Bello, Dr SID, D’Prince, DNA Twins, Ayra Starr, Johnny Drille, Crayon, Boy Spice, Bayanni, Rema, Lifesize Teddy, and Ladipoe.

To commemorate his 37th birthday in 2019, Don Jazzy unveiled the Mavin Creative Studios. The studio is a multimillion-naira mansion serving as the label’s corporate headquarters.

Mavin Records has received numerous accolades, including two consecutive MTV Africa Music Awards for Best Record Label in 2013 and 2014.

The label’s artists have also collaborated with international music stars such as Beyoncé, Selena Gomez, Kelly Rowland, and Chris Brown.